Let's start by describing vaginismus. It is a women's sexual dysfunction that manifests itself as an involuntary contraction of the pelvic floor muscles. Vaginism can occur at any time for women of all ages. This problem makes any vaginal penetration painful or impossible. To give you an idea of how the body reacts in an intimate relationship, just imagine when you get thrown an object at your face. The first reflex is instantly to close your eyes, they clench at the imminent impact. The pelvic muscles have the same reaction during a penetration.
Where does vaginism come from?
It rarely happens that vaginismus comes from a physical disorder related to a dyspareunia or a hymen too thick. Mostly, vaginismus comes from psychological disorders. Here are the most common causes:
- Anxiety about intimate relationships, especially when the relationship is with a new person. Also, if it is your first sexual relationship or if your last intimate relationships happened a long time ago.
- Stress due to limited or no sexual knowledge.
- Fear of intimate relationships and the pain that may be involved.
- Torque tension.
- A period of high stress.
The symptoms of vaginismus may differ from one woman to another. The main symptom is the discomfort and pain experienced during any type of vaginal penetration.
Here's how to list the different types of vaginismus:
- Primary: vaginismus is present from the first sexual encounter.
- Secondary: vaginismus appears later in life, even if the sexual relations were not painful before.
- Generalized: vaginismus is present at all times. Whether it is during the insertion of a tampon or a menstrual cup, during a gynecological examination or during sexual intercourse, all types of penetration are impossible without feeling any pain.
- Circumstantial: vaginismus occurs during a particular circumstance. For example, when the envy is not due to a traumatic event, for example a death. Circumstantial vaginismus may also occur in a non-consensual relationship such as rape.
Even today, sexuality and sexual dysfunction are very taboo topics. This explains why women will avoid discussing their vaginismus with their partner or a health professional. Some women will refrain from talking about it and even refrain from having sex with penetration for a long time until they are ready to have a child. Only then, they will consult in order to be able to procreate.
What are the possible treatments for vaginismus?
This dysfunction, often of psychological origin, can be treated with patience, support and professional supervision. The treatment will be established by your gynecologist or a sexologist according to the particular needs. Here is what could be suggested:
- Psychotherapy with the help of a sexologist or psychologist. It is a therapy focused on a long-term psychological goal.
- Relaxation sessions. Stress and anxiety are common causes of vaginismus. Meditation can help reduce these factors and allow relaxation of the mind and therefore of the body.
- Hypnosis. This treatment is not guaranteed. Conducted by a certified professional, hypnosis could help resolve psychological blockages that create vaginismus.
So what are dilators for?
During your consultation, the health care professional may suggest pelvic rehabilitation, especially if the dysfunction is also physical. You will then be suggested to get dilators to work on the walls of the vaginal cavity. This will quietly relax and slightly stretch the vaginal tissues. You will then gradually control the area worked and you can avoid long-term involuntary contractions of your pelvic muscles. If you feel comfortable, you can do the treatment with your partner, it will allow him to know the extent of the steps of your rehabilitation and therefore how far penetration does not hurt you. In this way, you will both know how to approach new intimate relationships, in terms of speed and depth and duration.
The vaginal dilators from Floravi
The vaginal dilators of Floravi are perfect allies to overcome vaginismus. Their curved tip shape facilitates gradual insertion in addition to being made of hypoallergenic silicone. The set includes four dilators of various sizes and diameters to allow progressive pelvic rehabilitation.
We suggest that you start by cleaning the dilator with Floravi's Steri-clean. Then, pour some Floravi water-based lubricant on the dilator to ease the insertion. Position yourself to be comfortable and begin to test your personal limits of comfort and pain. It is essential not to push your limits; stop the exercise as soon as the pain persists or is too strong. There is no rush, you have to go at your own pace. Moreover, at each session you can go further and further inside the vaginal cavity if you feel comfortable. Finish by cleaning your dilator with Steri-clean and put it back in its original box.
Floravi is proud to offer women's wellness accessories that are of superior quality and useful to women of all ages. However, it is strongly recommended to consult a health professional before starting treatment with vaginal dilators. You can then receive all the necessary information to counter your vaginismus and be sexually fulfilled!